A river cuts through rock, not because of it’s power, but because of it’s persistence.

—Jim Watkins—

From the moment we are conceived to the moment we die, like the rock yields to the flow of water, we are constantly being formed by the currents of life around us.

Sometimes, these forces carve things away over time. Sometimes, they build us up, layer by layer. Sometimes, they react with outside elements and morph into something entirely other.

And sometimes, when we’re lucky, they fill in the empty spaces and leave treasure for us to find, if we just know where, beneath the surface, to look.

The question is:

Do you know what’s shaping you?

And do you like the change you see?

Everything changes, even stone.

—Claude Monet—

What is happening to me?

When we’re not aware a formational process is taking place, the events of our lives can sometimes be confusing, uncomfortable, or even downright painful.

We don’t recognize the pressure we feel is meant to form strength. The friction we feel is meant to wear away our rough edges. The cracking we feel is meant to break us open. And the emptiness we feel is meant to slowly be filled.

When this happens, we find ourselves asking some hard and important questions.

Questions that can unsettle us.

Questions that sometimes scare us.

Questions we don’t have the foggiest idea how to answer.

Questions like:

 

  • What is wrong  with me?

  • How on earth do I get through  this?

  • Will I ever  get over  this?

  • Will I ever feel okay  again?

  • Where is God  in all of this?

  • Why am I even here?

And, the most difficult question of all,

  • Who am I NOW?

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    My name is Lorie Kaufman Rees.

    I’m a licensed professional clinical counselor, a certified spiritual director, and a certified enneagram coach.

    And I have, like most of you, spent a fair bit of time asking just about every question on this list.

    And I want to tell you a little secret:

    REALLY asking these questions—leaning with all I had into the current with the right people by my side—RE-formed my life.

    And I believe it can re-form yours, too.

    You see, many of these formational life experiences—crushing losses, unresolved trauma, difficult transitions, impossible decisions, life-altering diagnoses, the existential questions of identity, worth, and purpose—we don’t get to choose them.

    No more so than the Grand Canyon chose to let the mighty Colorado River carve it wide open.

    BUT.

    There are some choices that will always remain ours—and how we handle these choices determines which force ultimately shapes us from the inside out:

    the water, or the wisdom from within.

This is where I come in.

As a Transformational Coach, I empower women of all ages to effectively navigate difficult life experiences in ways that RE-form them from the inside out.

We are all… being transformed.

2 Corinthians 3:18

Transformation happens on the other side of surrender.

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Transformational coaching begins with the assumption that formation isn’t a choice—formation is a constant.

From the earliest moments on, all the experiences and choices and relationships in our lives “settle” into us, much like sedimentary rock is formed over time. We are built up and compacted layer by layer—all our biology and attachments and outside stimuli one on top of the other—forming the underlying assumptions, beliefs, values, expectations, and attitudes that shape how we experience and engage with ourselves, those around us, and the world in general.

The problem is that key word: underlying.

A transformational coach—rather than helping you set and attain a personal or professional goal—works with you as you examine these layers of sediment and begin to determine how they’ve formed the “mineral composition” of your identity and character and whether or not you need a RE-formation.

This exploration begins, for some, with an inciting incident—something has rocked your world (no pun intended) that has you asking one or more of those fundamental questions, not certain of how or where to find the answers. For others, it begins with the awareness that you’ve been asking yourself one or more of these questions for quite some time now—and you know that icky feeling of unrest bubbling beneath the surface isn’t going to go away until some excavation happens.

But rather than pragmatically “resolving” these issues—letting them simply wash over us, allowing them to carve through our lives like water on stone, determining the shape we’ll take once they’ve had their way—the coach brings together information and tools from coaching theory, neuroscience, psychology, personality theory, philosophy and spirituality to also explore what is the greater issue beneath these questions to assure deep and lasting RE|formation from the inside-out, rather than the outside-in.

I am what time, circumstance, history have made of me, certainly, but I am also so much more than that.

So are we all.

—James Baldwin—

Friends, my passion is helping women who are struggling ask the hard questions and pursue real, honest answers. Because whatever you’re facing—it’s going to form you, one way or another.

 

Let me help you make sure it is for the BETTER.

  • RE|formation Coaching can help you with:

  • Chronic Pain/Illness

    What is wrong with me?

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  • Transitions

    How do I get through this?

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  • Loss

    Will I ever get over this?

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  • Trauma

    Will I ever feel okay again?

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  • Spiritual

    Where is God in all of this?

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  • Purpose and Calling

    Why am I even here?

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  • Identity and Significance

    Who am I now?

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But the most important question you have to ask yourself is this:

 

Are you ready to be RE|formed?

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